In every family, a father’s involvement is a priority. It is his role to provide not only for the financial growth of the unit but as well as enhances its overall development. A father also focuses on delivering quality assistance to each of its members to help them reach their potential to become functioning people of the society. Therefore, the three dimensions of the contribution must be strengthened and given importance.
It’s essential to measure the father’s decision-making responsibility because it will become the source of the family’s growth. The process is not his alone. All the adjustments and extensive effort must be shared along with his wife, and both of them needs to land an impact on the kid’s developmental process. However, what seems to be the problem with society is their belief in the molding of children. People assume that the mental, emotional, behavioral, and physical well-being is only designated as a motherly task, provided that a father can support the family’s needs.
The Three Dimensions
Engagement
The first role of a father is to engage with his children. The involvement attempts to measure achievement and impact on kids’ development. However, there are limitations as to where he can contribute positively or negatively every time he is engaging with his kids. There are instances that even though he tells kids’ that he will always be there for them but continue to become inactively present in their lives, it still creates a problem. It damages both the emotional and psychological aspects of the children every time he doesn’t show up and spend time with them. It supports a buildup of loneliness, sadness, guilt, anxiety, and even depression, which by the way are severely harmful to kids when experienced in an early stage.
But as the engagement continues to sustain the relationship, a father will have a chance to pay attention every time his kids are talking, asking questions, and requiring some help. Though a father doesn’t necessarily need to spend time with his kids’ every day, he needs to make sure that special occasions matter a lot. He needs to become relevant at all cost. It is important to note that engagement is a nurturing factor that keeps a parent-children connection.
Accessibility
People often focus on the role of a father. They know what a father is capable of doing for the benefit of his whole family. Unfortunately, not all dads are capable of engaging with their children due to significant factors. These include an overtime work in the office, busy errands in the house, a lot of meetings, achievement issues, marital problems, and the list goes on. With that, there should always be a part where a father sets availability for his kids even if they are not directly interacting or communicating with him.
One way to bridge the gap between a father and children relationship is through communication. That is where both create connection and access to each others’ lives. Once there is a secured and healthy discussion of how to handle an exchange of conversation, then accessibility will enclose an emotional bond which is beneficial for children’s growth and development. Though some may misinterpret accessibility to physical presence, the emotional health is still the primary focus of the dimension.
Responsibility
While all the three dimensions are essential in providing fatherly assistance to children, the responsibility takes a lot of portion when it comes to keeping the balance in the unit. That’s because it contains complicated situations that emphasize decision-making ability. It concerns the role of a father where it tackles his stand being a parent. It correctly handles and organizes the children’s everyday lives. His participation in the kids’ learning is a must. There should be an interest in responsible-mindedness that ensures significant factors that help children in all areas of development. These include securing positive and kid-friendly atmosphere at home. A father’s concern is always the maintenance of peace and order inside the unit. It will not only make the members aware of each of their roles, but it also helps them understand the importance of the individual contribution to society.
Along with all the discipline and rules that a father must impose, his assistance on nurturing the children’s skills is also his responsibility. There must be an encouragement and motivation that make them believe in their selves. It is a requirement for every single father to never allow frustration, agitation, and mental degradation in their kids. He must keep children away from danger, bad influences, and emotional turmoil, and psychological damage. Because when there is a positive and healthy outlook on kids’ lives, a family can keep the unit altogether.
Fatherhood is indeed a tiring and frustrating task. However, the whole process of impacting children’s lives is one of the most fulfilling achievements anyone can ever get.